Deep Pockets Continued

So I thought I'd post some of the replies I had gotten from my fake craigslist posting (See Feb 2010 posting)before it was taken down. Some of these guys move fast, it was only up for 10 minutes.

Hi there, I enjoy sports (including softball, baseball, football, basketball), traveling, movies, cooking, dining out, live bands, comedy clubs, bowling, mini-golf, shooting pool, etc, anything fun. I'm an athletic 39 SWM 5' 6" with dirty blonde hair and hazel eyes. I have an MBA and my profession is finance. Hope to speak with you soon.
Carey

There's A New Cradle In Town

There’s a new cradle to rob…this one’s 21 years old. Just like I told the 23 year old, I told 21, he was way too young for me. I told him, “There is no way you’ll be able to support me when I quit working. Even if you had a job right now instead of being unemployed, you’d make no money and would never be able to support me at all”.

Even after I told him all this, he still wanted to talk to me. We were IM’ing through the website and I told him I had to go a few times but this kid just didn’t listen at all. So I told him I really had to go, I was going out that night (of course I wasn’t). He asked if he could come. I told him it’d be totally weird because I was going out on a date (that I just made up in my head to stop im’ing with him). He backed off. But asked for my number to text me. I should have known this was going to be a bad idea.


I don’t understand why these youngsters like to text so much. And they continue to text you when you don’t respond. They just keep texting as if they have never texted you before. This exact same thing happened to the 23 year old too. I’m not sure if this is a coincidence or not at this point.

Guess Who's Back? (BF with the cats)

Yup, this is correct. Just when I think he's gone forever, he pops up again out of the blue. My BF, the one that told his mom about me after the first time we ever met, the one that has like 5 cats and kept taking in more, the one that wanted me to name his newest cat.

Letter to my bf

Here is what I want to write the Chef. I guess I probably won't. It's probs not the best idea in the world. It might send the wrong message or something. But this is what I think in my head:

Dear Chef,

You are going to be my new boyfriend. And here is what I need in a bf:
- Just do whatever it is I say. I’ll change my mind, so it’s never the same all the time. You need to check with me first but not when I'm grumpy, I don't like to be bothered when I'm grumpy.
- I require a lot of attention but I only like to talk about stuff I’m interested in or stuff I like. I can’t listen to stuff that I’m not interested in or stuff that only affects you
- I’m going to need you to do stuff for me, like basically live my life for me bc I’m lazy
- I need you to make a lot of money. Because I will need a nice place, nice clothes, lots of vacations, nice restaurants.

Ok, thanks.

Love,
Dana

Raj the cheater, continued...is he still cheating?

UPDATE FROM RAJ, THE CHEATER (JANUARY 2010)

This guy, Raj, is apparently a huge cheater, his wife found out about his extramarital affairs and went a little crazy. She’s already contacted everyone in his address book in January. And now she’s at it again. I’m posting her original email and replies 2 girls have sent, which I found humorous.

From the soon to be ex-wife:

Hi all,

I emailed many of you a few days ago.

I found around >200 of email addresses in my husband's secret email account,he had delted all emails.By mailing them I did receive replies from few and found that he met a few of them on friendly dates in last 6 years.But I haven't heard back from many others.Please, please take the time to reply.

I have 2 young kids(2 yr and 6 mths) with him and need to do what is best for them and me after having all the information otherwise I will be just exposing myself and them to more pain down the road.

I NEED to know badly if there are others who he met and whether he was ever "emotionally or sexually" involved with anyone both of which he denies strongly as ever....says that he was just harmless flirting and just liked talking to girls.ofcourse I dont believe him anymore

I want to know the whole truth coz he won't tell me.

I beg you to please take the time and have the heart to help someone ...you will be blessed in some way.
Please search for emails from cy30305@yahoo.com or raja0912@hotmail.com or dj30305@yahoo.com and reply to me with anything you remember about him or any emails from him.

Thanks a lot.

Mitali

2 emails from 2 different girls:

you need to stop emailing strangers online. if u have 2 kids with this man then talk to him not us.
you are really embarrising yourself and being a mother of two you should be more concerned about your kids than where your husband has been hobb knobbing.

what if one of the girls he fooled is jilted and lies to you and puts u and your kids in danger? stop emailing me. i do not know how the rest of the people on here feel but im sick of your gaddam emails.

i do feel for you and for what your jackass of a husband did...but u are making things worse. think about why he did what he did and if he isnt worhed leave his dumbass.

Good Day to you.

yes, i think stop to send such emails is good for all of us..
in fact, i really do not know what happened, i forgot what happened, who is your husband? where he came from? why my email address in his mailbox? all are puzzle to me.
so i hope that if possible, could you pls stop to send the email to me?
sorry i really can not help you. and wish you good luck...all the best wishes for you...

Fine, I didn't like you anyways

Went out this guy on Sunday. We met at a bar, I stayed for an hour and left. We had absolutely nothing to talk about, none of the same interests, he seemed extremely depressed. It just was not clicking for me at all. I kind of went into this situation knowing this wouldn’t work out but he had asked me out about 5 or 6 times prior and I just felt bad when I kept blowing him off and finally agreed to something. I thought that when we finally met face to face, that he’d realize this wouldn’t work, then back off. But then yesterday I received the following email:

Dana

Are you interested in me or attracted to me?
Well, I am towards you.
Just wanna know cause you left an hour after you got here.
No hard feelings if you don't. Just be honest with me since we're both adults.

By the way, I've had enough of POF--I deleted my account and I won't be creating another one.**

Chris

**Please note this – since I had “met” him online, he had created and deleted THREE different accounts. He’d contact me, delete it, then create another one and contact me again….this happened 3 different times, each time saying he's had enough.... Should have been red flag for me #1.

I couldn’t lead him on anymore, so I wrote this to put an end to it:

Hey Chris,

I'm going to be perfectly honest. I'm not that attracted to you. It's simple chemistry and has nothing to do with your looks or anything. I think you're a cool person and good looking but I don't feel a spark. I'm sorry. I wish you the best of luck and hopefully we can keep in touch.

Dana

I’m so super glad he understood that I was doing him a favor by ending this early, since he thinks we’re already total opposites:

Sure, no problem. I think we're opposites anyway but I was willing to give it more time. Good luck. Take care.

Final-freaking-ly

I finally found someone normal in this whole experience.

I went out with Normal on Saturday. He’s a chef and was working on Saturday. I was semi in the area and we decided to meet up at a bar next to his restaurant after he finished with work. We had a few drinks and basically just hung out until the bar closed.

It was totally, completely refreshing. He totally acted normal, lead a normal life, had a lot of funny jokes, didn’t need me to explain my jokes, he didn’t show up completely socially inapt, 70 years old, or 23, or living with his mom (I just hope he doesn’t tell his mom about me, then call me to tell me he just told his mom about me).

The only thing abnormal about Normal is that he is abnormally tall. He’s like 6 feet 4 or 5 inches. Which is really funny since I’m super short. He kept trying to get me to put his sweatshirt on at different points of the night. Like he’d wait until an appropriate point to offer it to me (I was cold, etc), as if he was making a nice and gentlemanly gesture, but then I heard him mumble under his breath, “this is going to be so funny”. What nerve but also really funny. So there are normal ones out there. All hope is not lost.

And my parting thoughts - not everyone online is crazy and weird but ALL crazy and weird people are online.