The Boundary Overstepper

There’s another psycho on the loose, his name is Boundary Overstepper. Another guy that just doesn’t take a hint or know when to walk away. So I asked him, what is he thinking, what is going on in his head. As this little dating experiment goes on, I think I’m getting more and more jaded and less, um, what’s the word…nice. Sometimes I just can’t take it, I can’t help it, it just comes out.

So here we go. I started talking to this guy at the end of January, we had exchanged a few messages on the site, moved it to cell phone, he called once but I wasn’t around and he left a message, then I had to leave for South Carolina. I thought being gone for a while was a good way to clear some people out. And it was. But not for Boundary Overstepper.

Here he is with his constant texts. This is something I just don’t understand. If someone doesn’t reply to a text, why do people keep texting, as if that person didn’t get the text or forgot or something. Also, keep in mind that in between these texts, he would IM me every single time I signed onto the site, which I would also ignore. It got to the point where I was scared to even sign on and check messages! Finally, between 2/17 and 2/21, he IM’ed me and I asked him to back off. Obviously that didn’t help AT ALL:




Here I am being um, what’s the word, oh yeah, mean. And here he is coming up with excuses and lies, last time, yeah right:



He used his own language for this, “overstepped boundaries”, which clearly implies to me that THIS HAS HAPPENED BEFORE AND HE HAS A PROBLEM WITH THIS. It’s not me, it can’t be. Please don’t let it be me. Right??

Belated Valentines Day

Since Valentines Day was on a Sunday with President’s Day following I forgot to write about my awesome day. It’s one to be proud of. I had hung out at a friend’s the night before, we ended up drinking so I stayed over (I had driven there). We didn’t wake up until 1 or 2 pm, went to get Chipotle, and I went home with a stomach ache (thanks Chipotle). The highlight of the day happened next. Ready? Wait for it…..wait for it…..Ok, NOW: I watched Whip It on netflix by myself. I feel asleep around 9 playing this super fun game on my phone that I’m addicted to (Tap Tap Revenge 3) only to be woken up around 11 by this neurotic guy that keeps making and cancelling dates on me. Which leads me to part two…

When I first started talking to Neurotic, he seemed really funny. His actual craziness is probably why he has seems funny…at first. We had a second date set for 2 weeks ago. He called to cancel, didn’t really give a reason, and asked to reschedule. So it was rescheduled for the following Tuesday. The Sunday prior (V-Day) he calls. Wakes me up. Tells me he has insecurities (great). Something about he went out on Saturday night, he thought it was a good time, the girl came down with a headache. Which made him insecure about going out with me. Something about how he would have liked for me to reschedule sooner than a week from when he cancelled – hello crazy, what’s up? Keep in mind, HE IS THE ONE THAT CANCELLED ON ME ORIGINALLY. I basically talked him down from the ledge, told him to chill out, stop thinking about things so deeply, I’m not that girl, when we went out it was fun, blablabla, whatever it took to get him off the phone so I could go back to sleep, watch tv, or play my phone game. Tuesday comes, he sends me a text: “Between the snow and shame – tonight is not a good night for me. Hopefully you understand”. Here is what is going on in my head and what I want to say to him in my head – “go fix your mental issues and then come back and talk to me, you Neurotic psycho and I can’t deal with your insecurities at 42, I have my own issues!” There, just had to get that one out. Thank you for reading. He texted me last night asking me out for this weekend….

PS - I just think the picture is funny and gross but funny more than gross.

Always Practice Safe Online Dating

I decided to do some “research” for this blog last night. Meaning, it was time to respond to some of these winners. I was on the site, someone IM’ed me through the site, then all of a sudden I had some intrusive anti-virus screen take over my machine. I got a virus! Apparently I was not practicing safe online dating methods. I have no idea if it was the guy that send me the online STD virus or if I already had it maybe. I was so mad though! I had to call Dell and of course PAY to have them help me fix my computer. Lesson learned – always practice safe online dating. I just don’t know how to do that. Do they sell computer condoms at the drug store?

Married Life

(Reference – see Beer Garden from December 2009) So I’ve talking to this dude for a while now. Since December I think, maybe earlier. I’ve hung out with him 3 or 4 times. Each time is cool. He’s 34, well educated, decent looking, nice, semi-funny. However I strongly believe he’s married or living with a girlfriend. And here are the reasons why I think this guy is married.

1.He never has me drop him off in front of his building, it’s always down the street. I had to drive him home twice now I think.
2.He has mentioned that he has 2 cars. He has a Toyota and Jeep. This raised questions but I didn’t ask.
3.He never texts or calls at night, only during working hours
4.The last time we hung out, he got a call, looked at his phone, mumbled “whatever” and put the phone back in his pocket. He said he had to leave like 10 minutes later
5.He asked if I could hang out this weekend. He gave me choice of a. hanging out at my house or b. meeting up somewhere in Jersey City (where we both live)
6.When we initially first started talking, he mentioned that he wasn’t looking for a long term relationship. Which I told him was cool. But it’s weird bc usually people who say that are only interested in a physical relationship. Where this kid hasn’t made a move at all. This part is confusing for me.
7.He moved to Jersey City from South Orange (originally from Connecticut). When I asked him what took him to Jersey, his answer was "family". (his family's in Connecticut)...however please note, I was drinking when this conversation took place, this is the only point I have where I'm not 100%.

I mean, it’s cool. It’s not my problem until he admits he is or gets caught, not like I’m falling in love. At this point I just like watching to see where it’s going to go and trying to figure things out. It’s like an episode of Law And Order. Stay Tuned!

23 - The Final Chapter

This is exactly why I shouldn't have started talking to this 23 year old. This is NOT me being mean at all.

This came out of left field this day. Please keep in mind, I had responded to every single one of his texts for days, all day long. It wasn't always instant because, you know, I have a job and a life but there was always a response. Am I really the crazy one??

Contact with the Virgin

Fear not, contact has been made with the Virgin. I'm am currently trying to establish a solid idea of what he's about in order to move forward. Please stay posted.

Never Joke About High School Girls

I had initially talked to this guy weeks ago. He only signs onto IM at night and I'm only really on during the day we haven't communicated much. Randomly he contacts me today. Note to self, never joke about high school girls again...or joke more about them. Real note to self, people who say they have a sense of humor NEVER really have a sense of humor....

Alex: hey stranger how r u?
ME: hey. whats up.
Alex: 2 days off cuz of snow gotta say im lovin it
Alex: but ive got a cold so i would have been home anyway most likely
ME: must be nice. where do you live?
ME: i worked yesterday and i'm working today
Alex: hackensack U?
ME: dang. where do u work?
ME: i live in Jersey city and work in NY
Alex: teacher in nj
ME: my work didn't close
ME: ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh
ME: thats why
Alex: those dang teachers...
ME: LOL
ME: exactly
ME: what do you teach?
ME: how to pick up girls online?
Alex: no but could u help me in my online quest
ME: how?
Alex: tell me how to pick up the ladies online haha what s it gonna take
Alex: ill stick to spanish
ME: u teach spanish?
Alex: si senorita
ME: how would i be able to help u pick up ladies
ME: just be you man. just be you.
Alex: amen
ME: u teach high school?
ME: u pick up high school chicks for "extra credit"?
Alex: no i dont teach high school and I dont really like the last comment
Alex: not someting to joke around with
ME: some of these are just jokes
Alex: i know ive got an interesting sense of humor too but dont joke about teaching
ME: too many rules
Alex: rules?
ME: oye
Alex: im listeining
ME: i don't like to explain jokes.
Alex: recently there was a case of a teacher involved with a minor that is all over the newspaper so im sorry if i didnt think it was amusing
ME: was it you, loser?
Alex: no it wasnt

The fact that he replied, especially after I called him a loser is just too sweet. I blocked him after his reply, I couldn't let it continue, someone had to put the conversation out of it's misery.

**IM is kept as is, spelling errors included.